How do you deal with the X factor in a new relationship?
I am given to understand that men, in general, are territorial creatures. Specially where their partners are concerned. They say your past does not matter but they still ask. You know they want to know.
So whats the right thing to do here? Do you confess all? Do you sweep it aside and start afresh?
What does confessing it all help achieve?
To me, it does not matter at all. Its not to say I am indifferent but it doesnt bother me. It doesnt mean I care less about the person. I understand that he had a past. A past that did not include me. What I am thilled about is that his future does.
When I look back, I think about my past with a smile (and at times, with “what was i thinking!”) but there isnt any emotion involved. No regret, no anger, no misery – no matter the end. It was what it was. Some of it was youth, some of it was silliness, some of it were lessons that had to be learnt at some point of time or the other.
When I look ahead, I realise I wont miss what I had in the past. Been there, done that and got the tshirt.