The simplest of questions left unanswered can lead to rather complex situations. Ever have that happen to you?
Lets take the simplest of questions – How are you? You get a “uhmm” or an equally dismissive answer to that and the thoughts in your head start multiplying. Is s/he okay? Did I say/do something? Did I NOT say/do something? and the list goes on and on.
If such a general question can lead to that sort of reaction when left unanswered, imagine what a specific question asked with a purpose in mind, if left unanswered, can do.
The aim of the question could be clear and specific in your mind. It doesnt seem like a big deal to you……right uptil the moment its dismissed without an answer or worse, answered vaguely. Its downhill from there. The snowball effect. From disappointment to assumptions, it turns into this white elephant (or is it pink?) in the room. God knows you are still thinking about it but you pretend that it doesnt bother you.
This begs me to question again – how important is to disclose the aim for that question? Will reasoning out the purpose of the question make it easier to get (or give) an answer? Is it that people find it more comfortable to answer a question if they think the reason is worth it?
Like I said, a simple question can lead to such complex 99 other questions…….if left unanswered!