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Communication – An art? May 23, 2011

Filed under: Communication — limenlemons @ 2:37 pm
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At work, I spend a lot of time on communication, assertiveness, etc. All this very specific to women. Everywhere I looked, books or the internet, everyone talked about communication as an art….and one that women more than men are lacking.

Over time, though, I have realised that the real art is being able to swallow your tongue! Shut up! Bite it! Hold back! And so on…

I think we may be overemphasizing this whole communication thing. Is it really necessary in any aspect of our life to convey each and every thought to each other? When we do, how many times does that conversation really go the way we want it to?

In not-so-easy situations, we psyche ourselves to communicate what we think/feel. It has been weighing on our minds forever. It bugged us and hence we must ensure that the person responsible knows about it. So we spend our energy and time and – in figuring out how to communicate this effectively. When this does happen, you feel a little deflated….. it just didnt go as you thought it would. Maybe the other person had some logical answers for you or maybe they just didnt get the point! Maybe then….it would have been better for everyone if you had just not said anything.

We still dont learn our lesson, do we? We are out there….wanting to say whats on our mind all over again.

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7 Responses to “Communication – An art?”

  1. Adi Says:

    What you say is right blogger…the issue is that people also communicate coz it makes them feel lighter. Now in a situation which would have been better off without the communication, its possible that you may not speak but will you let go of it? People communicate more to actually feel better that they said it (off their chest blah blah) and not only to convey…
    To sum up…The situation would be better off without communication – agreed but if you ain’t letting it go, it will only add up to come out with a bigger bang sometime in the future!

    • limenlemons Says:

      does it really make one feel lighter? I wonder… sometimes you end up with more questions and confusion than before. Why do we need to talk about something to make ourselves feel better? Letting go can happen either way…talk or not talk.

      • Adi Says:

        Depends on your personality. Some people need to get stuff out and speak up while some people let go more easily. I guess there’s no right answer about when and whether to communicate or not communicate.
        In relationships that really matter, its best to understand the other person’s inclination and communicate accordingly. In the end a happy relationship is more important and shouldn’t suffer for the desire to communicate or not communicate!

  2. Anjuli Says:

    BRAVO!!! this is an excellent post and hits the nail right on the head!!! There is a verse I know that says…be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to get angry (James 1:19)….this is true communication!! 🙂

    Oh if we could all learn to be a little slower to speak and a little quicker to listen … and you are right, when we have stirred ourselves up to a frenzy about a topic, it normally does not get resolved the way we would like it to- thus causing us to go in circles and OVER communicate!

  3. nancy Says:

    U could have been talking abt me here…..but nowadays I feel ‘Silence is best weapon’ :-D. Sounds great huh but hard to put into practice 😦

  4. K Says:

    I dont know what to say ;)))

    For me, I’d rather play it over and over again sometimes before I put it out there. But you’re right no matter how I put it out there and no matter how many scenarios I play, the reaction and result are completely different.


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