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The 80/20 rule May 30, 2011

Filed under: Marriage — limenlemons @ 2:59 pm
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This rule states that most men get 80% of what they need from a marriage yet they tend to go after the 20% that someone outside can provide for them because it appears to be more to them when it really isn’t  (Source: Wikipedia)

The movie, Why did I get married, introduced this 80/20 rule. I recently came across it through a read on marriages. It brought forth a few thoughts to me, though I am sure each one has their own interpretation of it. The most obvious topic ‘cheating’ I will leave for another post altogether.

Lets widen the scope of it for today and apply it to more matters than one – the physical, mental, sexual and emotional.

Dont we tend to look at the 20 we are not getting from our partners rather than the 80 they are selflessly giving us? It’s hard to keep our eye on the 80 our relationship offers us and so much easier to come up with the 20 where it lacks. I admit I have been guilty of this on a number of occasions. Is it an inflated sense of self-worth or what you feel you deserve that makes us react this way? Are we just being human by wanting more? Food for thought……

 

 

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2 Responses to “The 80/20 rule”

  1. Anjuli Says:

    What an intriguing post!! I had never thought of this…but you know it is a good reminder to look at the 80 percent rather than concentrating on the 20 percent!!

  2. K Says:

    We do get caught up in what we dont have. I think what we have becomes a part of our everyday and then we put it down to a routine, so it seems mundane. But if we were to back to it in retrospect, its only then do we realise how awesome all of that 80 percent really is


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