life, lime and lemons

if life gives you lemons, make lemonade, find someone whose life gives you vodka, and have a party

Silence isnt too golden! June 3, 2011

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This whole silence business is killing me! *grrr*

Women are funny creatures, aren’t we? Someone says something to us we do tend to take it personally and literally and make appropriate vows to ourselves (no matter how hard or strange or unreasonable these vows may be!)

So I vowed recently that I am just not going to say anything to anyone. I think the spoon should be on the right but you have put it on the left…..then the left it shall remain. Shhhh! I feel helpless and restless and homesick but talking about that isn’t really going to change anything so…. Shhhhh! I am adopting the whole dont-think-it-dont-talk-about-it approach hoping it will lead to no-problem-at-all. Unfortunately, it’s not quite working that way. *sigh*

It’s hard to not care. It’s hard to not share. All the unspoken”ness”is a difficult burden to bear. (oooh look I can rhyme!)

Id love to throw an old-school classic full-blown indulge-me tantrum right about now…. I just fear for The Boy’s sanity.

 

Dear Lord, I ask for…. June 2, 2010

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Patience!!

It has been my  morning prayer today. Along with some amount of compassion (coz love would probably be asking for too much) and sensitivity (coz you are always asked to understand others’ points of view) and all those other things that make you a better person; that allow you to rise above certain situations; that make it easier to co-exist with others. I’m praying real hard.

Its one of those days when you make a list of all the good things in your life, all the things you love and count your blessing thrice (atleast!) ……so you can face the challenges and the crap and the crazy that comes your way.

Its one of those days when your eyes tear up for no reason, when nothing seems to go right (…your way), when most of your feelings border on hate, when there is so much anger and rage in you…you are certain the steam is blowing out of your ears.

Its one of those days when you can’t think of any other way to deal with the above mentioned emotions but to indulge in the most sinful, most gooey, most delicious chocolate cake……and I would do it (gosh sooooo tempted!) but it would be such a waste of the hours I put into the gym every week (….. and not to mention the amount of anger I may feel towards myself for such a sign of weakness!) Even worse what else may work is a stiff drink……(Worse is that thought coz it’s just noon right now!!)….maybe with some loud mind-numbing music and dancing till your legs hurt so bad you cant think straight……

The trip back home is a long way away. I hope I can stick it out till then………

 

“Angel-ic” no more! May 6, 2010

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Is there no married man alive who is able to keep his pants on anymore? I had/have the biggest crush on David Boreanaz and now he too has joined the ranks of Tiger Woods and Jesse James……

http://www.eonline.com/uberblog/b179255_david_boreanaz_no_angel_admits_cheating.html

This sucks!

 

Grrrrr! February 11, 2010

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I realise its so silly but it doesnt stop me from being pissed. Unfortunately for The Boy, I dont have any one else to grumble at …..it all gets directed to him. Deep breaths are a great friend right now.

As irritated as I am, I still find it funny that a simple lunch can make me mad. It wasnt that he missed lunch at home with me. It wasnt that he made an impromtu plan to have it out. Its just that he gets to do these impromtu things with his friends while I dont! At this very minute, I am trying to think of which of ‘my friends’ I could meet today and I cant come up with a single answer! The couple of people I do know in this city stay either toooo far away or work late. I understand he needs his time away and essentially dont see anything wrong with it but….it still seems unfair!

I know I am spoiling for a fight right now. I guess the only consolation here is that the making up will be fun!

 

Who is responsible? June 15, 2009

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http://timesofindia.indiatimes.com/India/Gujarat-to-fast-track-all-rape-cases/articleshow/4656017.cms

http://www.hindu.com/2009/06/15/stories/2009061559690700.htm

The above links are to articles in popular newspapers about a recent rape incident. There has been much public outrage about it. I understand that. It makes my blood boil too. What I dont understand is the blame game that is now being played out.

Parents are pointing fingers at tution classes that start early in the morning. They want them to change their timings, appoint security outside their classes. Parents now accompany their kids to these classes if they are too early in the morning or too late in the evening.

Fingers are being pointed at the police for not doing enough, for not being alert enough, for not being efficient enough. I will refrain from commenting on how much truth there is in this complaint.

There has been a call for a fast-track court trial for this case. A crime so heinous should be brought to trial and justice must be served without delay, they are saying. They also want a system that makes victims feel secure enough to speak up.

This case has also threatened the already weak communal ties. It seems we are talking about everything else but the accused.

How come no one is saying that what these boys did was WRONG? Why are we not pointing fingers at men, no matter their age or religion or caste, who are committing this act of violence every other day? Why are we not asking for a more accountable and disciplined behaviour from men? Why is no one questioning why a girl, no matter their age or religion or caste, must fear walking on the road in a free country?

Just because men are unable to behave in a responsible manner, why must I bear that burden? Why should a 17 year old or a 40 year old either? How long do we keep rolling our eyes at their violence with a “boys will be boys”? Are we, who do not ask men to shape up their act and instead point out to 1400 other factors of time, place, clothes the victim wore, also to blame for this act of violence?

 

And Im back! June 3, 2009

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I dont have an explanation for the time away. I didnt run out of things to say. I didnt have a 100 things to do to make me too busy to blog. I was just away. (A special Hi! to those who wondered and wrote in asking about my whereabouts)

I had a cool post in mind to come back with (PrettyFour, it was a list!!!) but there are other thoughts running in my head at this moment. So lets just go with the flow, shall we?

I wish it were simpler. I wish it didnt feel, at times, that you were being pulled in two opposite directions. What does one do? Look out for the ‘new’ or work with the ‘old’? It isnt really a choice for me. They are both equally important to me.

I wish it were smoother. There are too many things to do, too many plans to make, too many issues to think about. Are the dates comfortable with everyone? Does everyone like the venue? What time is suitable to all? Should we invite that family? Should we have this event or that? Somehow, EVERYONE is never happy with ALL the answers. It doesnt seem to end and this is just the start I am told.
(Added later: Aathira wrote about this too. But hey, I cant seem to leave you a comment on the post)

Guess I woke up from the wrong side of the bed – the “uncertainities” side.


On the other hand, I won an award. How about that, huh? Thanks, Wordmill!!
I am going to pass it on to each of you on my BlogRoll. Coz oh!!! how I missed you all.

 

Terror, Anger, Pain November 28, 2008

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There are so many things about the Bombay incidents that are upsetting me. These acts of violence make no sense. When did violence become a means to anything? I am sure no country, no religion, no caste, no community preaches that. Innocent people are losing their lives for a propaganda that doesnt make much sense to me. For land? For power? For money? Is any of that really worth that much?

The images of those young boys. Does it not disturb you to imagine that the youth today thinks that they need to resort to these acts to achieve something? I dont want the young anywhere in the world to believe that.

As a country, we obviously are not prepared for any kind of crisis management. Lets not pretend otherwise anymore. Acts of terrorism are, I admit, are difficult to prevent. But can we not be prepared to help those who get caught in these random acts? I refuse to believe that a group of people who have the resources of the entire country at their disposal cannot build an infrastructure/an efficient team to manage crisis. I understand that I am as much to blame as the system for a situation like this. I never pushed the system. I never expected anything of the system. I never questioned the system.

Images that disturbed me some more were of the people standing behind the camera at some of these locations smiling and waving at the camera. They pushed each other to get into the frame. Do we, as a country, also lack sensitivity? What is with the people posting minute-to-minute updates of the security personnel’s movements inspite of the police asking us not to?

I also didnt quite understand the media’s coverage of it. When you show us how many security people got into the hotel from “this exact spot”, you are not only showing it to us. Do they realise that? If sitting at home, I can see that….how can these very smart people who are in the line of responsible journalism not be able to see it? I dont even see a difference between them and the political class whom they are always dissing. The politicians talk, gain popularity based on whatever factors, dont do much later. How different are our media channels? Are they also not trying the same thing with us? Gaining popularity through “exclusives” by pushing their cameras and mikes in the faces of hostages who are breathing fresh air for the first time in 16 hours! That Polish guy seemed more sensible and insisted that he had promised the cops to not say anything. But that did not stop the lady journalist,from one of the more popular newschannels, to chase him with her questions. What made my temper hit the roof was when I saw a newschannel flashing images of the entire situation with a dramatic background score and believe it or not, but with a brand of HANDYCAMS advertisement on the side. God forbid anyone loses an opportunity to make some money out of this!

I am no one to preach anyone else. I lead a selfish life to. I look after myself and my own. But everytime I think about the staff at the hotels going about their work as usual or families out for dinner or people catching a train to get back home to their families – it upsets me. The acts were wrong. The fact that we couldnt help a lot of them is wrong. I want to know how to make it right. I need to know that we can make it right.